Empathy is the ability to put yourself in someone else’s shoes. It’s about being able to see someone else’s world through your own eyes and identify with the other person’s emotions such as joy, pain, concern and frustration. This is generally based on a similar experience you have experienced in your own life.
Intuition is based on the observations of others you have stored in your subconscious over time. It works well with Empathy and can provide balanced advice about communicating with others– both at work and at home. When this Advisor is in balance, communications run smoothly. When it’s unbalanced, it can hurt or damage relationships.
Dr. Robert Harman was a social scientist who created the mathematical calculation that underlies 6 Advisors. He discovered that a person holds back a reserve of cooperation and productivity by an average of 40%. In other words, you can gain 40% more cooperation and 40% more productivity by actually listening to the person, rather than the chatter in your head.
If you are talking to a prospect, client, employee or family member, are you listening to your internal dialogue? Is it about you or are you hearing them? Are you open and accepting of their situation without judgment? Do you trust the accuracy of you intuition?
What do these types of thoughts do when it comes to gaining cooperation from others? Leading others? Managing others? Making change? After all, isn’t this what most small business owners want to do…lead and make change and improve relationships with their workforce and customers? What about communications at home?
Your internal thoughts are firing away all day in every situation. If we miss the opportunity to climb into someone’s world because our Empathy Intuition Advisor is giving us unbalanced advice about others, we won’t get that opportunity back. But we can listen for our thoughts and make choices that result in better and healthier relationships.
Here are the results of our Success group thinks:
· 100% are open and accepting of others
· 100% honor people’s beliefs and values
· 86% are free from bias and prejudice
· 83% are balanced when assessing people’s performance
How’s your Empathy-Intuition advisor doing?
Join me next month when my article will be about your Self-Esteem Advisor.
Ó 2008 Cynthia Kyriazis and Six Advisors, Inc.