In my last issue, I shared information on the advisor we have who talks to us about others. Today I’m covering the one who talks to us about ourselves. It’s called the Self-Esteem advisor.
This is all about the type of advice you give yourself…about yourself. From some of the assessments I have conducted, sometimes this advice is not very kind. In fact, it can be quite unforgiving towards us. So I frequently ask, who’s in charge? You or your advisor?
To be consumed by self-criticism, fear, and doubt about yourself crates negative thoughts that prevent you from using your greatest talents and climbing to your highest peaks.
Did you know that 95% of the people in the western world strives to be ‘perfect’? It’s an unrealistic expectation that many people struggle to achieve. An equally high percentage of people feel their ideas are tied to their self worth which can cause us to try to impress others, pretend things are different than they really are, and experience shame because perhaps you failed at something. It advises you not to try again. For example, you hear ‘I knew I wouldn’t get that sale. I’m a loser.’
These types of feelings are based in fear. How would you feel if you were able to stop these thoughts and replace them with new, more self-encouraging ones?
Keep in mind that advisors not only talk to you, they talk to one another. Which means that Self-Esteem can be hearing from another advisor who is never satisfied…and your self-criticism continues.
How do you think about yourself? How many self-defeating thoughts are in your head? Are you forgiving or not? Do you believe them to be true?
Take a minute to meet and think about the advice you give yourself and quiet the advisor that prevents you from turning dreams into reality…you might discover a diamond in the
rough!
Here are the results of how our Success Group thinks:
- 67% value their assets
- 83% establish boundaries
- 100% are accepting themselves unconditionally
How’s your Self-Esteem advisor doing?
Join me next month when I talk about your productivity advisor…Practical Judgment.
Ó 2008 Cynthia Kyriazis and Six Advisors, Inc.